I Want a Wedding For Christmas
Weddings are romantic, exciting and a good excuse for a party, but next to house moving, getting married is also high up there on the list of life’s most stressful events. So really, deciding to put a wedding on the cards before Christmas would be quite ludicrous. And that’s precisely what I’m going to try and do.
I’ve been engaged for 16 years but in none of that time have my fiancé and I ever sat down and set a date. No, I lie. Back in the early days I dreamt I would be wed by 2002. Then 2005. After that I kinda gave up on the idea for another day.
The funny thing about getting married is that you’re supposed to start life as husband and wife from the outset, so when you spend half of your life in a relationship without making that first wedding hurdle, you’ve lived through and experienced a heck of a lot of stuff already.
Physically getting married becomes more of a challenge the longer you live together – what does a marriage certificate change? But sometimes, what you go through and come out of either breaks you or makes you stronger, and considering the amount of drama we’ve faced together already we’re pretty solid. Suffering a miscarriage back in August has reminded me how important marriage is to me, so wedding thoughts stirred up again.
But why am I suddenly wanting to plan a wedding at such short notice? In a nutshell, my Dad. Two years ago he was diagnosed with the on-start of leukaemia, and he was fighting it really well. Then this summer came a second blow: pancreatic cancer. And as it stands, the cancer can’t be operated on and he’s too ill for chemotherapy. I don’t know how we’re actually going to do it because my Dad is in so much pain and barely leaves his bed. But I’ve always wanted my Dad to walk me down the aisle and it feels like now is the time.
I must admit, when I broached the wedding subject with the OH he hadn’t realised I was thinking a pre-Christmas kinda time. Churches and people need time to book, and it takes time to prepare, so I just *may* be expecting too much. But I can’t bear the thought of losing an amazing opportunity when I’ve really had 16 years to do it.
Weddings are the ultimate dream, so you can easily get swept away. Of course it’s all in the detail, but when time is short we need to prioritise. The church, the photography, the dress… argh! Is a church wedding this quick possible?
If you can help me make my dream come true, I would love to hear from you! (’cause I don’t have a clue what I’m doing!)